Hopes & Desires – What are we asking for?

Many people have been asking how we’ve been doing in our wait to “meet” our child.  Unfortunately, the truth is that we probably have another 24 months before we actually get to know who God has chosen to be a part of our family.  We don’t want to leave you all in limbo for 2 years, so we want to do our best to be sharing with you how our hearts are doing in the process.

In our paperwork that we sent in, we were able to put in our specific requests for what age and gender we are hoping for.  We have always believed that God has always known who would be a part of our family even before we became a family.  But we did include our requests.


BOY OR GIRL? So even though we know there are many little girls in the orphanages in   China, we put that we have no preference for either a boy or a girl.  In addition, we said that we would REALLY desire to have twins.  It would be so wonderful if the twins are one boy and one girl, but most likely, if we do get twins it’ll be two girls.  Are we crazy?  Many people may think that, but we would love our children to at least know one biological relative.  Regardless of whether we adopt one or two children from China, he or she will most likely not know who his or her birth parents are.  There usually is no record of this information since most children are abandoned.

Even when we were going through infertility treatments, our hope was that the Lord would bless us with twins.  Dennis and I have always thought it would be wonderful to have a set of twins as we know several sets of twins who have incredible relationships with their twins. That type of a relationship is so special, and if the Lord allows us to raise twins, we would welcome that challenge!

Of course, being matched with twins doesn’t happen very often, but it’s also not impossible.  In fact, since we started our adoption process, our agency has matched two families with a set of twins.  Of course, if we are matched with a single child adoption, we would be 100% delighted and grateful as well.

WHAT AGE? If we have a single-child adoption, we have asked to adopt a child that is 12 months or younger.  If we do get matched with twins, we are asking that they be 24 months or younger.

Knowing this and how long the wait is right now, makes us realize that our child(ren) isn’t even born yet.  It’s a strange thing to think about since we are so eagerly awaiting the news of getting matched with a child, but in the meantime, a woman and her family will have to deal with an unwanted pregnancy and go through the pain of giving up her child.  It’s hard to think about that, but thinking about that always reminds me of how God had to go through the pain of giving up His only child so that we could have life in Christ.

HOW MUCH LONGER? We had mentioned before that couples of Chinese decent are on an expedited track.  However, this expedited track is still about a 2 year wait.  In fact, this month’s newsletter from our agency stated that expedited couples that had their log-in date from April 17-23, 2007 were just matched this month.  So the actual wait right now for expedited couples is closer to 30 months, 2 1/2 years!  As a reminder, our log-in date is August 21, 2009.  So at this current rate, we won’t get our match until February 2012.  *sigh*

It is a bit disheartening to think about how much longer we have to wait, so we would love to have you join us in praying for hearts that will persevere in trusting in God’s perfect timing.  As we wait, we want to be people who are content in the wait and in what God still wants from us before we become parents.  We know there’s a lot to learn and prepare for, and we want to be good stewards of these years before us.  We are not so naive as to believe our lives won’t change after having kids.

I wold like to hope that the time line will speed up, but there is nothing guaranteeing that right now.  We’ll be sure to let you know if it does though.

So for now, we continue to wait for Chen X.